I have previously mentioned that I am a teacher. I am specifically a special education teacher who works in a community schools. I help students with special needs within a general education classroom. Recently, we had a busing issue with one of our students and this caused the parent to keep their child off the bus. Despite living blocks away and an approximately 15 walk, she refused to bring her child to school on her own. Meaning, she kept her kid out of school weeks before the state exams for two and a half weeks. This infuriates me for so many reasons, but I became even more angry when I learned that this child was adopted.
I understand this woman is protective of her child and she had a valid reason for keeping him off the bus, but to not bring him to school for most of a month is unacceptable, especially when he has learning disabilities that interfere with his retention of new and learned skills.
The student returned to school today and there was clearly regression in his academics. I became more upset. I asked the child if he read at home, did any math work, did anything educational. In response, he told me ‘nah, I played my DS (handheld videogame) the whole time. I prompted him again by asking him if he read anything while he was out and his response made me even more angry. He proceeded to share with me that not only did he not read, but he did not have a single book at home. I get it- books are expensive and if you aren’t from a family of means, replenishing books can be costly. HOWEVER there is something called the library and one just so happens to be only a few short blocks from this child’s home.
I suppose I should get to my big rhetorically question: How can a mother think she is protecting child by keeping him off an ‘unsafe’ bus when she is preventing him from learning and obtaining skills that will make him more independently and successful? How did this woman get approved for adoption? (And no this was not a foster to adoption case, this child was adopted at birth).
I remain frustrated and baffled with this because I have ‘met’ countless wannabe adoptive parents who are desperate to raise a child and have to jump through hoops to prove their are a fit parent. I just can’t believe that a woman who is granted this gift wouldn’t want the best for their child.
This woman’s excuse was bullshit and proves her laziness. Walk, take a city bus, take a cab (if you can afford it) or teach your TEENAGER to take public transportation on his own. As a parent it is her job to make sure her child is getting what he needs and what he needs is his education.